grandma died last year and it's the only thing i want to write about
everyone says death essays are overdone. that's it that's the post
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Topics are not overdone. Generic essays are. A reader has seen "she taught me to never give up" hundreds of times, but has never seen your grandmother's specific kitchen, her specific sayings, or what you do differently now.
If you write it, keep the focus on you: who you were, what changed, what you do now. A good test is whether more than half the essay is about your actions and thinking, not about the illness or the loss.
Start with one small concrete scene with her, not the hospital. Write that first.